Simply Living Silver (Bakersfield City) Sex & Swingers Club
Reviewed by: Jennifer & David Walsh
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Email: [email protected]
Website: http://www.simply-living-silver.com/
Night air tastes like rain. The Bakersfield venue glows amber, and a soft jazz playlist threads through conversations as couples share warm hellos by a check-in desk, where name badges sit in a neat tray and the scent of vanilla tea mingles with a hint of citrus from a shared pastry. The space feels like a living room you could linger in—cozy couches, low conversation hum, and eyes that read your comfort level before a single word is spoken.
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In Bakersfield, friendships form slowly and securely
Simply Living Silver centers on mature couples seeking friendships with benefits within a sizable, well-connected community. The group’s calendar is built around monthly events that invite members and guests to mingle, share stories, and build trust over time. You’ll hear from longtime members about carefully curated guest lists, welcoming lounges, and spaces that favor conversation and consent over spectacle. The vibe is grounded in respectful curiosity, with a strong emphasis on getting to know couples before any deeper connection unfolds. You’ll notice subtle rituals—quiet greetings, soft lighting, and a rhythm of check-ins that helps everyone feel seen. It’s the kind of environment that rewards patience, listening, and clear communication, whether you’re simply exploring the dynamics of a swinging lifestyle or deepening a friendship with couples who share your values. It’s easy to sense why this circle has attracted a substantial following; you’ll hear stories of partnerships growing into lasting friendships, and you’ll feel more invited than pressured to participate according to your own boundaries.
Practical Keys for Joining the Simply Living Silver Scene
- Location: Bakersfield, California, United States in Kern County; monthly events at a central venue
- Hours: Typically evenings for events; check the monthly schedule and RSVP windows
- Dress code: Smart casual with comfortable layers; bring a light jacket for cooler rooms and later hours
- Accessibility: Venue is accessible; confirm specific event accessibility with organizers
- Facilities: Lounge areas, conversation nooks, soft seating, a small dance/interaction floor
- Entry: Membership-based with application; pre-approval required; singles may be considered with sponsorship by a member couple
- Services: Hosts for orientation, safety monitors for consent checks, refreshments, and quiet spaces for private conversations
What We Step Into When the Circle Opens
Trade-offs & Caveats: This circle prizes clear consent, mutual respect, and friendships with benefits, which can mean a slower pace than some seekers expect; it’s not a venue for casual, impulsive flings or disorganized plans. Singles are seldom admitted and only considered with pre-approval and sponsorship by a member couple; come prepared to share your couple’s identity and boundaries and to respect others’ boundaries at all times. If you’re looking for a quick, one-night experience or a venue without screening, this isn’t the right fit. If you value trust, maturity, and ongoing communication, you’ll likely find a home here.
FAQ
What is the etiquette for bringing a new partner into Simply Living Silver after a breakup?
Open, transparent communication with both partners and the group lead time.
After a breakup, approach the community with honesty about your status and intentions, and give the leadership team time to review your situation. Reintroductions or new partners should flow from clear discussions with your ex-partner, your potential new partner, and the group’s expectations. Expect to share boundaries, consent checks, and a plan for ongoing communication so that everyone feels safe and respected. In our view, this process honors both relationships by reducing ambiguity and preserving trust for all involved.
What makes an event by Simply Living Silver feel unique?
A patient pace, curated guest dynamics, and intimate spaces for conversation.
Events feel distinctly intimate because the organizers cultivate an atmosphere where conversation is encouraged and boundaries are visible from the outset. There’s a gentle rhythm to the evening—name badges that ease introductions, lounges arranged for low-pressure mingling, and a playlist that shifts the mood without shouting over the room. The emphasis isn’t on showmanship but on meaningful connections with couples who share similar values, which makes each gathering feel like a gathering of trusted friends more than a party.
What is the community’s reputation for consent culture?
Strong emphasis on clear consent, check-ins, and mutual respect.
The culture prioritizes consent and ongoing communication, with hosts facilitating consent checks and reminding attendees of boundaries. The language around “no” and “pause” is respected without hesitation, and quiet spaces are provided for preferred pacing. While experiences can vary by event, the prevailing sense is one of responsibility and care, with guidance available from hosts to navigate new connections thoughtfully. For anyone curious about how a consent-centric climate feels in practice, talking with seasoned members during a welcome session offers valuable insight.
Jennifer & David Walsh
Jennifer and David Walsh are a married couple of licensed therapists specializing in relationship dynamics and couples counseling. Both hold Master's degrees in Marriage and Family Therapy and bring professional expertise to lifestyle relationship guidance. Based in Seattle's suburbs, the Walshes combine their clinical knowledge with personal relationship experience to provide balanced, evidence-based advice. Their collaborative approach emphasizes partnership dynamics and mutual understanding, helping couples navigate complex relationship challenges. The Walshes' dual-income, upper-middle-class background provides stability while their ongoing personal relationship work keeps their advice authentic and relatable.
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