Minnesota Hotwife FetLife Group (Minnesota (MN)) Sex & Swingers Club
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Hotwifing is not just a swinger activity. We dress our wives up sexy and take them out. Could be to a club or a party or ? We flirt and look for interested others for play. Not cucking. We are not separating and I never yield control of her to another. Hotwiving can range from vanilla flirting and wardrobe malfunctions, to gangbangs where everything goes, but is not limited to any kink that a woman is adorned in her sexual essence and presented for others to see or experience.
The man presents what is so incredibly sexy about her to others. At some point the offer is made to enjoy her with him, only to serve her sexual experience. He may have different motivations, but it is always about serving her needs and deepest sexual desire. It is often a process and not a single event. There is a process that a woman goes through to liberate herself sexually. Her mate is there with her, although not always in person. And sometimes he is not aware that his wife has started down this road without him.
Her man protects and serves her in the experience, because it is something that she could never do without him (unless she has started to hotwife herself without him). If she isn’t the star of the show, she isn’t going on. And if she is not getting exactly what she wants, she will no longer be in the mood and end the play. Very different than cucking. The difference is the role of the man of the couple. Hotwiving, he does not necessarily give control of her to another. He may choose keep that role for himself and it is also his experience, whether he is present or not.
Usually couples over 40 are more into this, especially after swinging for a while. But newbees have likely been hotwifing for a while and have not know what to call it. The relationship has to be ready for it, and so the couple already knows what they are looking for. So walk in and get started usually doesn’t satisfy her. There are so many other kinks that become entwined, such as voyeurism, bisexuality, impotency, orgasm play, self esteem building to name only a few. So the anonymous walk-in will not work usually, unless the kink is the “walk in stranger.” It is not just about the act of sex.
The star will use her man (or men) to set the scene and control the play (if her husband in not there). This is because they have already discussed what they want. So in the foreplay is her man presenting her to the players and telling what she would like. Probably something a little different that what they would get at a usual play party. Definitely something that she could never imagine happening if it wasn’t for being with her man.
So in the end, the couple is stronger and has a deeper relationship. It strengthens the relationship by affirming her beauty and sensuality, while experiencing no guilt or remorse. She gains pride, self esteem, and confidence she is truly a hotwife, and her man is willing to do everything to serve her.
So while hotwiving is a bit vague in definition, my hope is that we begin to recognize it as a legitimate kink, just like MS, BD or swinging. In order for that to happen, we will have to understand ourselves, or wants, desires and limits.
Rules:
- Always show respect.
- Never put down another’s kink, even if you cannot understand it.
- Anything nonconsensual, unhealthy, or that will do harm should never happen.
- Just like Vegas, what you do here and what you see here, leave here when you leave here. It is no one else’s business.
- Only use Fetlife names to address others. Respect other’s privacy.
- Always respond to your mail, and a pleasant “thanks but no thanks” should always suffice requests that are not accepted.
- No and stop are both accepted safe words and will be honored at all times.
- The purpose of this group is to serve our hotwives. We love you and only want to learn how to serve you better.
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